Keep the same energy

“When we were dating, you use to escort me home every time, but because we are married now and you will meet me at home, you don't usually escort me to enter the junction” A lady said it to her husband

Keeping the same energy that you have for your wife before you get married to her is good and it makes her love you more, some men forget how they use to flirt with their wives over the phone when they were dating and they believe that it's of no use because they stay in the house now and he sees her every day.

A funny story I saw on Facebook some time ago

wife: Honey why don't you buy me the gift as you use to when we were dating back then.

Husband: If you caught a fish with a worm and take it home, do you usually give the fish warm to eat always.

What the man meant is that he did it what he did back then to win her heart and now that he has won her heart and even get married to her, he can't be doing as he used to do, which is not right, that means the man was doing it because he has rivals that were also chasing her back then.

Some people say marriage is a trap and it will get you bored, I am not married yet and I don't think about marriage now because I have to work on myself and my future first before I think about marriage, but I believe that marriage isn't that bored as people label it to be, people usually talk from their perspectives and that doesn't mean they are right or wrong, it's just perspective (how they see it)

For me I believe marriage is a dream turning to reality, like you just see everything happening in front of your eyes, the woman you always talk to through phone and wished she was here with you all night has moved in with you, this aren’t something that should bored anyone, it’s suppose to be the beginning or continuation of your happy life, humans can’t explored fully, there are so many things you still don’t know about your wife, spice up the marriage, take her to the club that you use to take her to when you were dating and dating like you were still dating her.

Marriage is not the end of the line, marriage is like a whole new level in a game, you have to continue your mission, take her on a date, buy the sexy dress that would make you want to eat her in public, haha, at least ones in a while taking her to the movies and watch the latest movie together, buy her popcorn and steal it from her, haha, run to the security man for cover.

Go on vacation together to Dubai or Canada, take pictures and update your status with “The only woman that has the secret recovery phrase to my heart” make her feel like you people are still dating, cook her favorite food and feed her like she's a baby that doesn't know how to handle a spoon yet.

Go on tour together and discover new things around, visit ancient places and collect souvenirs and keep them in the room as a reminder of the places you both have been to, organize game night with your wife and win her so she will know who's the man, haha, she will be angry and want you to pet her, you will carry an instrument like a guitar or a piano and sing a beautiful love song to her, even if you don't know how to play the instrument or you don't have sweet voice in singing, just do it, she will appreciate you, women love it when you show effort towards them.

If there's isn't enough money to take her to these luxury places that I wrote, that doesn't stop you from doing it at home, you tell her to wear one of her finest dresses, you will do the cooking and serving as you both watch movies together at home, marriage is not all about having children and training them to grow so they can do the same and so on like a routine, marriage is meant to be enjoyed, enjoy your partner like there's no tomorrow, make spice up your love story, it doesn't end with marriage, marriage is a whole new level as I have stated before. This also applies to the women, treat your husband like your boyfriend and watch as he's going to react with it, wake him up with a hot cup of coffee, and slap his A#s when he's going to the bathroom, if he looks at you, say this to his face “you are too hot to resist” haha, he will be thinking of you all day and won’t wait to get home to you.

A few months ago there was a trend on Twitter and some said that when their wife leave the house to visit someone else, the house feels empty and they will be calling them to come back, even if he’s just 24 hours she has been gone, someone even said that he traveled to meet his wife at their family house and stayed there with her until they where done.

Marriage is sweet when you keep the same energy you use to give when both of you were dating, it feels good.

Thanks for having yet another ride with me and I hope you apply these ingredients to your marriage so it can taste sweeter and to the singles like me, lets not forget to preserve these ingredients for future purposes.

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26/01/2022