@Clintbling 23 July 2020 more from that month

The Do's And Don'ts Of Casual Dating While it goes against conformist wisdom, I'm a staunch antagonist of the idea that s3x is always better with someone you love. As for me, s3x is like football: a pleasurable activity you can do alone or with others, with varying degrees of formality. Whether it's a friends-with-benefits situation or a Tinder date has gone right, here's how to ensure everyone wakes up happy the next morning.

**Have a casual attitude** If you're in the marketplace for casual hookups, always operate under the hypothesis that you two will be heading back to your place at the end of the night. Even though you'll inevitably end up staying elsewhere from time-to-time, casualness is something that you should exude through your attitude, not your apartment's cleanliness level, so best to just be prepared.

**Keep it lit** Casual s3x, like a delicate mousse, is deceptively complex to get right, easily ruined by over-mixing, and—most importantly—best enjoyed when it’s light and fluffy. Casual hookups can be militantly S3x-Only, or they can involve a drink or two at a nice bar with some Michelob Light-grade conversation. **Don't get fancy** Casual s3x is not the place to try things with which you don't already have a baseline comfort level. There’s a huge difference between, ''I've never had s3x in a car, want to help me out?'' and ''Let's dabble in BDSM tonight.'' Being up for anything—a good outlook when it comes to casual s3x—really means, ''up for fairly common s3x acts that we're both comfortable with, perhaps with minor, fun twists.'' It doesn’t mean you need to test drive your kinkiest fantasies.

**Don't linger** Prolonged proximity ends up in bed, whether you are into it or otherwise. If you hang around with somebody long enough, you become friends, and it becomes something else- the kind of friends who regularly spend the night and day together and so balm! **Don't make it weird** You two aren't dating, you don't get a say on what they do or what they wear or who else they have relationships with. You only get to set your boundaries, and hopefully, that meshes with their expectations too. Don't get possessive. Don't religiously stalk their Instagram. Don't publicize that you two are hooking up. Don't start going the extra mile by offering to pick up their parents from the airport, which sets up a dynamic that once again replicates dating.