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Trust Issues

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Just one mistake might be all you need to lose someone's trust, for others it takes more than one, and for very few others they could still decide to keep on trusting you no matter what, even with repeated mistakes they keep choosing to trust you. So we are all different, different people with different personalities and different tolerance levels, some got it better than others, some don't have any tolerance for your mistakes at all, a zero tolerance, just one wrong from you and they can rarely trust your words anymore. You might have yourself trying to make amends and prove to them you've changed or say the previous event was only a mistake, but all to no avail.

This issues of trust is by far a great need for every relationship to keep standing. When there is no trust, it's as a building without pillars. So we need by all means to get that trust and ensures it stays. I need a trust worthy person to stay by my side, so do you too. As much as marriage has other areas of concern, trust gets us knowing that he belongs to me or she belongs to me. It's a responsibility for both, not one alone, both parties has the sole task to ensure that trust isn't broken, no matter how angry, or how bad things are, trust should never go down, it's the pillar that keeps it standing.

The best remedy has been to stay faithful. When we are in a relationship, we should stay committed, like really committed without looking else where. I guess it all starts when we start believing we can be too smart, like our partner would never find out. Maybe truly we have devised a good game plan we want to go by, and we think it's almost impossible that our partner finds out. Still don't know how well our plans have worked in time past, I still don't know how many of the cheaters still has a successful marriage till now, maybe there are those doing these for years and still not getting caught, but I know one thing, for every actions comes a reaction.

Don't attempt to toil with the trust earned. Don't try to think its easily regained. For so many this trust they've lost, still has a way of hunting them from time to time even when all quarrels are settled. Does it ever returns to normal? Are you sure you can continue living in a close space with this person you've lost faith in? Wouldn't you think of the worst whenever they are not with you. Can you cope. All this question being to run through the head of the one who has been hurt. Even when leaving my feel like dying they know they have to leave. And this heart breaks are hard to recover from. So hard.

Now lets say the deed is done, and we genuinely regret what has happened, in fact we want thing to return to normal, what do we do? Well don't skip the part I said genuinely, cause anything other than genuinely means you're still on the road to committing more wrongs sooner or later. And when you're not genuinely sorry, then I guess you weren't fully into the person you are hurting, and as much as possible I tend to encourage true happiness, so maybe it's best you end it, before doing what would hurt the most. In other not to be tagged as wicked or bad, I guess it's best the wrong is cut off as early is possible.

However for the genuinely sorry, don't try to shy away from the discussion, don't try running away and hidden behind let's just forget about it. How can the mind forget something that has bore a hole in it, its not that easy you know. Rather let's talk it out. Have a seat out and really talk it out, discuss the matter and discuss it smartly, I must confess some details might not be palatable to confess out, as it would hurt deeper than the actual thought of what happened, if you know what I mean. So at times Its best we discuss what happened and why it happened and try to assure that it would never happen, if you have to cry, do cry. Well if its genuinely, the tears should flow easier.

Many successful marriages has been through to worst of times, many wrongs happened which lead to trust issues and making them wave like it wasn't going to last, but love still brought them back until they learnt to stay faithful and trustworthy. A lot really gets resolved when you talk it out, it isn't enough to beg for forgiveness and say I'm sorry, most times we need to iron it out, this way we can tru preventing it from future occurrences. How are we sure you aren't going to do it again, how certain are we that whatever lead to the first wrong won't lead to another. We need to know you are really going to be trust worthy, so we need to talk about it.

Thought of making the title of this article "Talk About It " cause it all boils down to both parties settling the matter with a deep conversation, cause from it comes the next possible solution, if it's best the relationship is resolved or dissolved, all for the best. As well as from it can we see how sincere the other is, how much we truly want it to work, and offers an opportunity to really apologize and assure our partners it would never repeat itself again. So regaining that trust might not be easy dependent on the person hurt, but talking about it can help a great deal, as well as our actions afterwards must portray we truly are changed.

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In a relationship, a bunch of trust is significant. Once trust is broken, it deteriorates the foundation of love. Thanks for this Article of yours, @Brilliance! 💞

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1 month ago

You're so welcome Alphacron, you're correct, a broken trust decreases the love level.

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1 month ago

The thing about trust is that it is so hard to build , yet it can easily be broken . Once you lost it , you cannot expect to trust someone again , maybe the relationship can still be there but there is now a gap.

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1 month ago

In friendship, marriage or in any relationship the main bonding is trust. Each time we make a mistake and ask for forgiveness , means the other peraon is losing trust in us.

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1 month ago

That's right, more reason why we should be true to ourselves and who we truly are, this way we don't need to seek forgiveness here and there. We just do us and they can accept us soon.

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1 month ago

Trust is something which is like glass. Once broken, cannot be repaired. And if repaired anyhow the scars will be there to show that once it was broken.

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1 month ago

That's right, so right infact, it now depends if they are both willing to live on with the scars or quit completely. Often times they learn to stay happy amidst the scars.

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1 month ago

You are right, once trust is lost, it is very difficult to regain it. I feel sorry for losing friends who abuse trust.

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1 month ago

Lol, we have to be careful with people who have lost trust in our side, just be careful as they say once beaten twice shy.

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1 month ago

I totally agreed with you, Trust issue's happened in life becuase of negative thoughts if they stay positive they not see any problem but when their minds goes wrong way then people makes it, Every person have a lot of relationships,friendships,relatives,they have to set with every reason or with evidence then trust issue's may be not happens. Stay blessed ❤️

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1 month ago

Yea, sometimes we assume a lot and focus more on what we feel they may be doing bad and lost trust, I guess without concrete evidence we shouldn't mistrust.

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1 month ago

One thing is certain about any good relationship and that is trust. Trust is all we need for every relationship to work and left for that alone, then there's just nothing as a relationship at all. Trust when list either by our own mistakes or so could have a very strong adverse and a damaging effect on the defaulter. Therefore, we must try and maintain our stand as against being found wanted on those regards of a lost of trust.

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1 month ago

I see it this way too, a healthy relationship has to be built on trust, without it then it is likely headed for doom, we all must see to it that we maintain that trust from our end.

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