Its normal and very natural, but then we must seek to deal with it and not allow it win over us. It's a deliberate fight to stop it, first we must acknowledge that it's there, and we want to change, then we can take essential steps to changing. Anybody would be lying if they says they don't get jealous, its as normal as your sense of feel, humans emotions are a way of life, and how we feel about things like i already discussed in my previous article I titled "Feelings", this emotions we can't command how it comes, but then how we deal with such emotions are up to us to control. Now jealousy being the main center of our article today, you can't help that someone gets what you want and you don't. You can influence someone to be attracted to another person while you hope it would be you, but then many have acted irrational to such feeling of jealousy, and they are guilty to face the consequences.
Jealousy as normal as it is, happens to everyone, just as anger is completely normal too, however dealing with it are what makes us grow, your growth is aligned to your tolerance level, staying good amidst the pain, well its painful when you're jealous, its like you're not important then you begin to wonder why luck didn't benefit you in that aspect, especially in the area of love, to finding a partner and you're just not wanted back, also in material possession, why can't I get that car, that house, that clothing and the likes, but here my neighbour has it and his busy showcasing it before my eyes, oh what's wrong, what's making my case different.
One tricking thing about jealousy is that it rarely comes strong when it involves someone you're not close to, we don't get jealous over someone we just saw past, maybe you're taking a walk and someone random passes on a flashy ride, oh you might feel down but then you don't begin to envy the person, you don't even begin to dislike the person, in fact you can start admiring the person rather, but just when its your close pal, someone you both are together, spend time with, and starts getting it more, this feeling is often stronger, it shows in your countenance, you feel he's has left you behind, and you aren't just smart enough, or you aren't just good looking enough or you aren't lucky enough, well you should know all this doesn't matter in life as the main essence of living is to be good and contentment is a needed attribute to staying good.
No matter how you are, or what you have there's somebody somewhere that envies you and is hoping he or she can at least get a tip of what you have, but we individually are never satisfied, surely we aim for more, however in our pursuit for more, let's not hurt someone along the way, let's not bring destruction down even as we seek for our own piece of the cake. Patience is a virtue indeed,sadly no one has patients any longer, we want it on it, everyone is in an hurry, your family are also pressuring you to hurry, your spouse are also pressuring you to do better, all these added to our own aspirations have increased our level of rush. As though we have a limited time frame and should get it in no time, so when someone next to you (neighbours, friends, family) gets it and you're still wanting, automatically it creates more tension, causing you to be jealous. Forgetting that they have their own worries and are still never satisfied.
Leading to strive and hatred are often the bad children from jealousy, as some people get motivated from seeing others get their expectations, some has learnt to walk up to who they are jealous off and come clean so they can learn a thing or two, like oh I'm jealous of how you got the position, you know I'm hoping for it too, how did you pull it off, so I can step up my game, there's nothing bad in this, in facts its get the person excited and proud that he or she can pour out some vital info that can help.
Others have learnt to just call their self to order, when such feeling is strong and it seems as though it wants to take over and lead to some bad decisions, they'll just speak to them selves and assure their self that their time would come and that thing that's there's would surely be theirs, as long as they stay good. Its is good since sometimes we can't come clean depending on the occasion, however the actions are our call to make therefore we choose to act good and shun hatred birthing from jealousy, we learnt to channel the feeling into creating more energetic approach to our need.
Indeed jealousy is a strong emotion and at such anything it acts on, who produce a strong result, if you decide to do bad with the feeling, I bet you can cause huge havoc, however if you channel it rightly, then you can create positive changes for yourself.
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