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Dating: Do We Focus Too Much On Appearance?

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Written by Β Β 571
5 months ago

Greetings everyone!

This originally was going to be a completely different story relating to a Filipino man who reportedly jumped off the 6th floor in the mall when he was shocked to find out the woman he was meeting for the first time after 6 years did not look as appealing as she did in her photos. As it turns out, that story was a satire and I caught it at the last minute. This story by the way happened 6 or 7 years ago and just popped up on my Facebook memories.

It did make me think though. What if? What if you were to meet someone you had talked to for a long time only to find out that person wasn't what you expected?

I'll give an example. This happened back in 2000 and was shared by my husband (we haven't met each other back then). So yeah, my husband told me that he worked as a dispatcher for a garbage company. At his work, he often had to call the recycle center, which was across the road, and speak to the dispatcher there. The woman was black (not a problem for him) and had the sexiest phone voice you could imagine and my husband says she was flirty too lol.

Long story short, my husband came to find out from others that the black woman was about 6 feet tall and not a small-boned woman. One day she told my husband she was going to drive past his dispatch window and wave to him. My husband was excited and nervous. The guys he worked with had told him she was dark and they were black as well. Even they joked about how dark she was, calling her almost purple, kinda mean in his opinion. Well, that was literally mean to me too.

So anyway, the day comes. She drives by a car with tinted windows. The window goes down, the car slows and a hand comes out and waves. It was all my husband saw. Until she smiled, then he saw white teeth. That was it. He won't get into saying how he felt about it all, but he will say they never met in person.

What if it was you and someone says, "This guy is a great guy/girl, I told him about you....here's his number.. he/she is waiting for you to text or call them!" and you do. You have a mild idea of how he/she looks based on friends' descriptions and theirs. Several months go by, and you guys are like peas in a pod! You share the same humor and interests, you begin caring for one another and your schedules lighten up and you finally set a date.

You walk in and see each other - and right away, every late-night fantasy you had of them gets flushed because they are not what you expected nor do they fit what you typically find yourself attracted to. Do you give that person a chance for all the great qualities you learned prior? Or do you scrap the whole idea and move on?

I'll let you think about it. Be honest too!

(Photo is my husband and I)

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Ako sa looks talaga nagbbase. Hahaha. Ang bad ko. Honest answer lang. πŸ˜… siguro oo pwede may connection kami virtually then kapag mameet ko na in person most likely magkaturn off isa sa amin or pareho kami. Pero if hindi then meant to be. Hahaha.

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5 months ago

Aha!!!!!!

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5 months ago

Hahah! Nkakatuwa nmn ung kwento lalo na ung tumalon sa building πŸ˜‚ but of course nkakaawa rin nmn talaga npaka superficial kc na rason para tumalon.

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5 months ago

Nakafilter cguro masyado sa pic, doctora.

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5 months ago

Uff I love these themes, thank you for sharing them my beautiful friend.

The physical, we are in a world where everything revolves around your physical appearance, no doubt the physical has weight when meeting someone, it influences a little, but I believe that his way of being, essence, attitude and way of seeing life, has more weight in this balance, and we should give a chance, because even the most handsome, has some physical defect, that conceal it is another story, then we can not blind ourselves, limit ourselves, because the person we have in front of us is not a Miss Universe or a Movie Actor, on the contrary, just as we move our cell phones away when we are with someone we love, we should also remove that erroneous vision of life, and simply let everything flow, see what comes up, if there is no chemistry in person, all good, friends, but what if the reality is different? , If you see in that person that life partner, if you see in that person what you expected so much, sometimes by closing ourselves we lose great opportunities. I feel that in love the eyes are often superfluous, because in the end the physical is temporary, at some point it will disappear, and we will be like raisins, so let's enjoy what we have today, let's love, let's not limit ourselves, and let's know with the heart and not with the eyes, greetings my beautiful friend, great article.

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5 months ago

Spot on, my friend! Despite people saying, "looks don’t matter", the fact exists that they occasionally do.

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5 months ago

A cute partners spotted let us know your love story we all are waiting

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5 months ago

Thank you, my friend. My husband already wrote an article about us on Bubblews years ago 😁

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5 months ago

Nag bubblews ka rin? I started blogging there too.. 😁

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5 months ago

Yes, doc. Dun ako nag-umpisa magblog hehe

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5 months ago

Dun din ako nag umpisa nung mag close di na ako nag blog na busy na sa work.. Sayang di ko kau napansin ni momentswitjMatti dun

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5 months ago

ay ganun ba sis? iba kasi username ko dun. yung acct namin iisa salitan kami ng pagpost ng husband ko lol

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5 months ago

Now it's your turn to tell us.

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5 months ago

What should i say now? Sorry, i am confused as i am hungry after read this!

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5 months ago

Go eat, brother haha

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5 months ago

but tell me the main meaning of this article too haha

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5 months ago

when you go on a date for the first time, do you focus on how your date looks?

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5 months ago

Did i ever go on any date?πŸ™„πŸ™„

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5 months ago

Yeah? So, what did you expect? Does beauty a big factor?

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5 months ago

till now i want to have a good girl who can care me from her heart ,.. Beauty is not a factor!

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5 months ago

That's awesome, brother!

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5 months ago

Cheers!

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5 months ago

In my Utupia world there would be no money and ppl would show the soul, not the outside looks πŸ™ˆ

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5 months ago

That'd be the best, soul momma!

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5 months ago

ey sis... i remember so many stories related to this.. anyway, how about sharing with us your lovestory too? hehe

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5 months ago

Naisulat na yan ni hubby sa Bubblews nun, sis hehe

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5 months ago

hala di ko nabasa yan..hahaha sa bubblews ba tau nagkakilala sis?

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5 months ago

Diko sure, sis. Pero alam ko sa Bitlanders at Steemit hehe

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5 months ago

ahhh hehe bitlanders pala

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5 months ago

Uu sis pero ikaw sikat na sikat ka dun pero ako fan mu lang hehe.

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5 months ago

hoi grabe sya... miss ko na si bit.. binibisita ko padin sya hanggang ngayun... sayang nga lang di ko na hold si btc...huhu

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5 months ago

Ano nangyari btc mo sa bit sis? Wala na ba ang bit ngayon?

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5 months ago

kinash out ko lahat sis... merong naiwan ung indi ko na cashout sa isang wallet... naging 20k pesos din sya..hehe .. di na nagbabayd si bit

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5 months ago

Ay sayang nmn ung na hodl mo dun..

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5 months ago

Sayang talaga sis..npakasakit hehe

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5 months ago

Kaw magna cum laude dun eh. Kau ni Sam hehe

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5 months ago

asan na kaya si sam...

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5 months ago

busy sa OS ba yun, sis?

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5 months ago

ung tasks? andun pa ba sya? wala nako update sa kanya sa fb kasi..

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5 months ago

yes, sis. ininvite ko sya dito at sa noise pero parang di daw pa nya layang iwan yun.

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5 months ago

aww... keri lang naman sa noise kasi social media ...

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5 months ago

correct, sis.

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5 months ago

Grrr... ahahaah

"Several months go by, and you guys are like peas in a pod! You share the same humor and interests, you begin caring for one another and your schedules lighten up and you finally set a date.

You walk in and see each other - and right away, every late-night fantasy you had of them gets flushed because they are not what you expected nor do they fit what you typically find yourself attracted to. Do you give that person a chance for all the great qualities you learned prior? "

Lols .. with the premise that I liked his humor, embraced his care, etcetera I doubt his looks will be a huge issue .. Most likely what will happen is may shock factor for sure.. mga siguro for 20 minutes I am dismantling the image i've had of him and trying to fit the image in front of me then I'd be fine.

Walang video call man lang nung several months? lols... hard... hahaha

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5 months ago

haha malay mo, pich! pati video naka 100% filter? 😁

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5 months ago

hahaha Snapchat hahha.. pambihira.. i think at some point during the several months i would like to see him kahit vid lang...pero malay nga no..?

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5 months ago

kaya maganda talaga fez to fez eh 😁

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5 months ago

Tall dark and handsome naman cguro 😁 Pro mas tinitingnan ko ang ugali kesa sa appearance..

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5 months ago

Naman, sis. Pero plus talaga pag may itsura din hehe.

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5 months ago

Wow he told you his story? Whahaha I'm not a type of men who will tell my ex stories haha. Basta it makes me remember the thing wasn't to think about kapag hehe

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5 months ago

My husband is an open book, kabsat isu maysa plus factor dayta nakayatak. Amin nga nakadate na, nakarelasyon na ammok amin. hahaha. Rock and roll. Utang ko man pay lang wen lol

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5 months ago

I'm not kind of open to all people haha. I always had the trust issue pero kapag alam kung worth to shared with sasabihin ko lahat ng Kalokohan ko whahaha.

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5 months ago

I do too. This is why I am not a people person lol

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5 months ago

Appearance is a big bonus for me. But not really a mr. Pogi tlga. Atlist your neat, mabango and look smart.

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5 months ago

Naman, madam. Dapat balance hehe. Musta ka na????

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5 months ago

Ok na ok na ko. Bka next week Magactive na ko sa noisecash πŸ˜‚.. mga konting active ganern. πŸ˜‚

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5 months ago

see you there. missed ya!

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5 months ago