Is it okay to rebuke friends?

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To answer this question, remember how many friends you have? Not the ones who subscribe to you on social networks or send you holiday greeting cards, but the ones with whom you have complete understanding and sincere sympathy?

I'm sure that some people will say that they have only one friend, and others will smile happily and say that they are friends with half of the world.

I think it would be difficult for us to compare answers, because friendship, like love, is understood differently by everyone. I have my own criteria for distinguishing friend from mate, some have other criteria.

But there are those whose ideas of what friendship and who is a friend coincide with mine, and this coincidence is the first sign that we can become friends.

Actually, if there is no coincidence in the first position it is useless to try to become friends, because if two people are guided by different ideas, they will communicate as foreigners - like everything is clear, but the nuances (the most important part of communication) will be left out of the picture.

For me, friendship is not only a coincidence of interests and sympathy.

For example, I believe that only children and parents have the right to be rebuked. Neither cousins and cousins, nor neighbors and neighbors, nor husbands and wives should make claims, accuse someone (except their own children or their own parents) of indifference, coldness, greed, that is, lack of something that one wants to get.

Well, maybe I overreacted about wives...

After all, spouses have obligations to each other.

Of course, it is better to be free of claims (first of all, internal ones), but if you really want to reproach someone, you should unconditionally cross friends and girlfriends off the list. They are beyond reproach, beyond reproach and beyond accusation.

What is rebuke?

It is the aggressive lashing out of a person who claims something, but does not receive it or receives it in insufficient quantities.

Behind almost every rebuke is the same meaning: You don't give it to me...

Instead of a dotted line there can be the word time, effort, care, attention, money, warmth, support, and so on, that is, a part of yourself.

And who should give of himself unconditionally?

Only parents to children!!!

Giving back is possible when parents have become infirm and needy and children have become strong and competent and self-sufficient.

All other relatives, much less friends, have no obligation to give anything back to anyone!!!! So blaming a friend or friend for not doing something for you is completely pointless and unwarranted.

I take friendly attention, help and care as a gift. And I treat them the same way - as a gift, which may be (and then it is a great joy, worthy of deep gratitude) or may not be (and this is no reason for complaints and resentment).

I can't imagine that I would blame my friend for anything, that is, demanding things from her that she absolutely does not owe me.

Maybe that's why we have a real friendship, counting decades, when we are always ready to come to the rescue, understand each other with a half-word, but never aggressive onslaught. That was just my point of view.

To whom do you think one has the right to rebuke?

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