@Balikis 18 January 2022

Depression: it is time to end my life!. Depression is a disease that spread like wildfire. Billions of people out there are depressed of one thing or the other. Infact the face that smiles the most holds deep hurted stories words can't express. Before I move on deeply into the word 'depression' I will like to explain what it is. **Depression in my own word is the act of being sad or not being able to visualize a happy future.** **The definition alone has a lot of pain attached to it. It is sadden having no happy thought or the ability to day dream about a happy life.** **Happiness is needed in life and as humans, we cling on any available one we feel but the moment we loose that little thread we hold on to, sets in depression**. Why do we feel depressed?

**It no way hard to list what makes us depressed if we were been asked. Infact they are more than thousands of reasons we feel depressed. Just like we are born of different families, have different ethnicity, different beliefs, different opinions, different way of life so does how depression varies. Below are some of the things that makes us feel depress.** Families.

**It okay if you feel families can't make you depress but just note this. In the world today, our families are the people we grew up with(i.e the first people we recognize). These people play a vital role in our life and most times push us to depression. Mostly after you finish your education, they'll expect you start working and take good care of them but the economy do not always agree with this as it is always hard to find good job without connection and this makes some families to mock you and make you feel useless, infact some will make you feel unwanted especially if your little siblings got a better pay job than you do**. Friends.

**Many have fell victim of peer pressure. My friend just got a good job or as a new car or built a mansion and here I am with nothing. Especially if this friend of yours isn't as good as you and it makes you wonder how he got it when you are much more better than him in many aspects. This makes some people depress and wants to give up on life especially if that friend of yours flaunt his success in your face.** Marriage.

**This play a vital role in our world today, as humans we all get to a certain age we need to be with someone and start a family just like our parents did. But most times it is hard getting a good partner. People from different angle will ask for your age and when you say I am 30 or 35 years old they'll scream and say, shouldn't you be married? Isn't your cousin who just turned 25 just got married? Aren't most friends of yours married? Do you need spiritual healing? Should they hook you up with someone? . They'll ask countless unending questions and these have push people into depression thinking maybe they are not just good enough for anyone.** Child bearing.

**This play the most vital role in our world,many have died of depression because they couldn't give birth. The doctor as checked both couples and they are both fine, then where does the problem come from? You'll ask. After taking countless drugs and doing numerous checkups, all still result to the same. Child bearing has crashed some marriages and even that alone brings depression especially when the husband or wife start acting strange thus leaving both parties in doubts which may lead to divorce.** Divorce.

**Apart from the ex husbands and wives, divorce mainly tell on children. In our society today, children wants to show of their parents to their friends and the world in general,the moment divorce sets in these children loose their source of happiness and this have made some children move away or slip away from the grasp of their parents thereby loosing their parents love and affection. It breaks their heart more if their friends parent are still together and they begin to wonder, did I cause my parents divorce?** Do the rich feel depressed?

**Yes they do. Depression knows everyone home address and can knock on any door at any time.** How can depression be managed.

**We can't have it all in life, just like they are happy days so also they are sad days.** **In term of families, depression can be managed if such family can embrace such person and feel his or her heart with love that better days are coming.** **In term of friends, the best way is to keep doing what you do best, fill your heart with love and associate with people who motivates you and bring the very best in you and always remember, everyone has is or her destinated time in life.** **In term of marriage,never let anyone push you to the wall, don't give up and know that love will surely find a way to you irrespective of your age.** **In term of child bearing, keep praying and take the necessary dosage and don't forget to always make yourself happy or better still, you can get an adoption and love the child as your own and thank God the world is advanced, they are also certain medical ways to aid child birth.** **In term of divorce, be sure you give your best in your marriage and if it still doesn't work, for the sake of your sanity you can divorce but you'll have to make your child understand and make sure yourself and your partner never let he or she feel neglected.** *However, there's a story of a lady who almost died of depression in my hostel then in school(happened 2017). It happened that she was heart broken by a guy who she had sacrificed a lot for. Ranging from her school fees, her house rent(which makes her scout with people) and other things she had done for the guy. The guy who claimed he loved her, infact their love story was almost everyone's ideal of how love should be. They were termed the best couple until the incident that occurred which almost claimed her life. After the guy broke up with her(cheated and said he was sorry that they should both go their separate ways after promising her marriage) then came the news that she failed most of her courses because of her inability to pay her fees. She was said to have drank Dettol mixed with hard drugs and was fortunately saved by the person she scout with who called in people who rushed her to a nearby hospital. When she was asked days later why she almost killed herself, she said and I quote " I have no reason to be alive."* Depression is real and do not thrash people's feeling, if you can't help them, leave and don't add more fire to their already burnt and crippled soul. Feeling depressed?

Call on friends, colleagues , meet up with strangers, or meet up with any psychologist you know. Don't keep it all stuff up inside, let it all out as they are people who will always listen to you and see the pain behind your smile. Always remember that your life matters and no matter the circumstances you face in life, you deserve to be alive and day dream on happy thoughts. Thanks for reading and stay safe. Photo source: Unsplash Author: Balikis Date: 18 January 2022.