I Was Worried But Now I'm Quite Relieved

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September 19, 2022

When I heard that face to face classes would start, I was excited but at the same time worried about my kids. Worried because of the past experiences that my eldest son had gone through before when they started schooling here.

During the first year of being enrolled in the school where my kids studies right now, there were kids who bullied other students. They would just punch or scratch someone's face or even throw stones to other students especially those who just studied here. Though the teachers had reprimanded those students because of their bad behaviour still they didn't stop. Though I also approached the parents of those students who bullied my eldest when he was still in grade 2 but nothing had changed because the parents would just never mind what I had told them or they even sometimes said that maybe my son started it that's why he was punched or other physical contacts from their child.

(I knew my son's behaviour. He would not make a fight with someone instead if someone would quarrel with him, he would just cry.)

In this case, I just told my son to stay away from those kids as much as possible because even if we will make a complaint about those students, nothing changed. Those students would still continue because they knew that there parents would still back them up even if they did something wrong.

So when they announced this year's face to face class, it make me worry because what if things will still be the same even if I will send and fetch them to and from school. As we all know, we can't monitor what those students will do inside the school premises where we parents couldn't monitor. As what Xander said, those other students are not even afraid of the teachers.

In the first week, I heard that there were few students who tried to bully my three sons but those only happened on the first week. Second week and up to the moment, I am happy that every time they went home, they always had happy stories about their newly found friends.

This morning I sent them to school, and I also bought them snacks. As I was putting the snacks on their bags, three other students called my eldest son. I don't know who those students are but when my kids saw them, they were smiling widely. I only asked them who those students are when they went home after their morning class. They told me that those are the classmates of my eldest son who are always there with them when they are in school. Play when they have free time, shared their snacks to each other and defend themselves if there are other students who will try to bully them.

With Adam, he found some friends or classmates who speaks Bisaya or Tagalog like him so they get along well with each other. Every after class, Adam would speak about what he and his friends had done in school. He also shared that his friends would share food or snacks with him.

For Xandra and Xander, they both have their circle if friends. Xandra had found a girl bestie who she can talk to even if she can't fluently speaks Maranao and for Xander, he also had two close friends as of the moment. But despite having close friends, he never forget to monitor his siblings especially his younger brother. Whenever they didn't have class, he would brought Xandra with him and went to where Adam's classroom is. He would check if Adam is writing and listening to his teacher. What I like in Xander's personality is his sense of responsibility. He maybe strict sometimes to his siblings especially when his things are messed up but whenever they are in school or other places, he wouldn't forget about his siblings. He is really a mature one and I'm proud of him.

Closing Thoughts:

I am relieved to know that my kids are now gaining more friends whom they can miggle with and make their school life more enjoyable and memorable. But even though things get better today, I will still monitor there daily happenings in school.

This will be all for today. Have a blessed evening and goodnight to those who are going to bed now.

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Same worries din, Ate. Lalo na kay bro kasi may series of experiences s'ya sa bullying since Grade 7 to Grade 9, that's why pahinto-hinto din s'ya kasi di nya kinakaya 'yung effects ng bullying towards his. Bumaba talaga self-esteem n'ya which is nahirapan s'ya na i-control & to overcome. He's turning 19 na pero I'm still worried at grabe talaga nangyari sa kaniya before. And dahil din I'm no longer a student of that school kaya di ko sya mababantayan and maipagtatanggol~ but so far, okay naman. Wala s'yang nakukwento na bad experiences nya.

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6 months ago

Grabe din talaga effect ng bullying ano? Nakakaawa yung mga batang dumaan sa ganyan. Hindi pa naman lahat ay May matatag na self, hays. Buti nalang si eldest ko, medyo hindi nya lang masyado dinibdib yung mga pangbubully sa kanya kahit nasasaktan sya physically.

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6 months ago

Same sis nasa development process pa ang bunso ko. Ngayon lang na experience ang mahabang klase, whole day siya doon may baon ng lunch. Tapos may mga kaibigan na rin siya sa room niya na madalas nyang ikwento sa akin.

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6 months ago

Pareho pala sila nung bunso ko sis. Ngayon lang siya Naka experience ng whole day class pero kahit bago to sa kanya, masaya at excited naman sya pumuntang school palagi.

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6 months ago

Nag eenjoy na siya sissy kapag ganun. Excited siguro siyang makita ang mga kaibigan niya. Mas masaya kase silang mag aral kung may kasamang kaedad nila.

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6 months ago

Oo sissy, nag enjoy na talaga sya. Mas masaya nga talaga pag May maraming naging kaibigan.

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6 months ago

Trulalu, parang tayo sa mga platform na ito, happy talaga. Magandang gabi sayo.

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6 months ago

i wish i would have been like your kids, i regret for not mingling with kids of my school and eventually i become alone lol

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6 months ago

Buti naman ate your kids found circle of friends sa school, hirap din po talaga kapag ikaw naging target ng bullies eh. I don't know why some students bully their classmates. For me, kulang sa attention mga ganung tao kaya they did such thing para mapansin sila. Kaya lang in a wrong way Naman sila nagpapapansin

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6 months ago

Mahirap nga, naawa ako sa anak ko before pero ngayon medyo napanatag na ako dahil marami na silang naging kaibigan.

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6 months ago

...but whenever they are in school or other places, he wouldn't forget about his siblings. He is really a mature one...

I love this, that's how it's supposed to be and with, you don't need to worry much about them because they more like in a safe hand

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6 months ago

Yeah right. My worries are now lessen because I know that when there's someone who tried to bully my other kids, Xander is there. Though he is still young, he will never let his siblings be bullied again because he knows how to defend them.

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6 months ago

The first learning house of children is their homes but after that they are learn things from schools. Teachers should pay more attention on the kids and make them learn good things because a kid almost spend 5 to 6 hours in school well good morning dear

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6 months ago

In my opinion I think the teachers should pay much attention on the kids because once the parent leave their kids with them, they leave them under their care so they should take it as their responsibility to see that no child bullies another.

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6 months ago

The teachers had been doing their part but the kids will not listen to their teachers. As what their teacher had told the parents, discipline should start at home, so parents should be the first responsible for their kids behavior. Even if the teacher will do something but the kids just never mind what their teacher had taught, nothing will change though.

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6 months ago

Naka try nasad gbully akong anak saona sa Grade 4 pa siya sis Mao ng akong gisumbong sa ilang teacher ug ngka storya mi sa parents sa Bata, his parents didn't nga ing Ana diay ilang anak ky behave daw ug naa ras ilaha. Dili Lang ang akong anak ang ni reklamo atong bully nga Bata Pati uban nilang classmate

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6 months ago

Maayo kay na aware ang ginikanan sa behaviour sa ilang anak sis. Diri storyahan ang ginikanan, Usahay balihon pa ang sitwasyon or much worse kung away sa anak, mahimong away na din sa parents kay di man sila ganahan nga pagsabihan ilang anak. Makatawa nalang Gani ko magtan aw na imbes ang mga anak ang naay problema, pati na mga inahan mag syagit┬▓ na sa usag-usa. Mao sa ako na part, kaisa ra ko Mu storya sa ginikanan, kung di sila mutuo, akong anak nalang jud ang palikayon.

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6 months ago

lagi sis naa man ubang parents nga wala nakahibaw nga lahi ang batasan pa naa sa school.

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6 months ago

Don't be worried, let them face all the problems on their own they will learn a lot. I can say Xander is really a responsible and caring child who is always there for his other siblings.

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6 months ago

That's what I first did before but when I saw that my son got scratched and was punched by his classmates, that I can't stand anymore so I approached their mother to know what their child did to my son.

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6 months ago

Nganong gi bully man imong junakis dae? Aguy ,ang akong anak dae kay naka sumbag jud ni og namaak sauna atong daycare pa siya. Waman maanad og kaduwa kay layu me sa silingan tas di ko hilig manilingan niya walay laing bata dere. As in kuyawan jud ko oy basin masuko ang nanay sa bata ,maong kanunay nako bantayan akong anak jud sa school. Karon sigeg hangyo nga mo skol siyag taekwando ,wa ko misugot kay basin mangbully ,jusko saon nalang ,di tanan panahon naa akong mata niya Dali ra kaayo siya maaliingit bisan tutokan siya di ganahan­čśů

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6 months ago

Trip lang jud sa mga bata mang-bully dae labi na ug bag o pa lang na studyante. Murag mga siga┬▓ mga bataa pero karon ok na tong mga bataa, peace na sila kay siguro nag matured na ang utok Atong mga bataa... Oi, hala? Pero Mausab ra ng imong anak dae. Kung maanad sya nga daghang bata, maka amigo ra na puhon.

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6 months ago

Nice kids you have bhe. Nakaka adapt na yung mga bata sa environment at nadedevelop na yung confidence nila unlike before na bago para sa kanila ang lahat. Some kids talaga e kulang sa aruga kaya sa school gumagawa ng kalokohan para mapansin but still may mga parents talaga na mas need ng attention minsan hano?

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6 months ago

Oo nga, nakaka adapt na sila ngayon. Marami na silang naging kaibigan na mas lalong nakakapag inspired sa kanilang papasok sa school araw-araw.. True yan, minsan kasi yung mga bata dito, hahayaan lang ng mga magulang pupunta kahit saan kasama ang mga barkada. Yung mga barkada minsan iba ang trip, gusto magpapansin sa ibang bata kaya nang-bully..

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6 months ago

I'm glad friends' circle of your kids has been increasing. Seems like Xander is great and very responsible kid, who has always been looking after his siblings. Great kid

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6 months ago

I'm also glad that they found some friends and I hope they can build more friendship in the next coming months... He really is very responsible. He sometimes was the one who protect his siblings whenever someone will try to bully them that's why no one had bullied them already because he will really defend his siblings.

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6 months ago

Seems like he will be a great leader. So nice of him.

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6 months ago

Nakakainis yung mga batang ganyan sis yung mambubully. Di ko alam panu pinalaki. Dapat tinuruan ng magandang asal. Daming bullies talaga sis.

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6 months ago

Nakakainis nga sis. Di mo naman pwedeng pagsabihan talaga dahil magsusumbong yan sa mga magulang nila. Imbes na yung mga anak ang mag aaway, pati na din ang mga magulang. Yan yung mga nanay dito, away ng anak, away ng mga nanay. Hays naku, kaya as much as possible, yung anak ko ang pinapaiwas noon. Pero ngayon ok na sila nung nga bullies.

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6 months ago

Ganun ba sis. Grabe naman yun. Meron kasing parents na alam nila na mali yung anak nila kinakampihan parin. Salamat okay na sila sis. Mas mabuti nga yung umiwas nalang sis.

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