I Was Worried But Now I'm Quite Relieved
September 19, 2022
When I heard that face to face classes would start, I was excited but at the same time worried about my kids. Worried because of the past experiences that my eldest son had gone through before when they started schooling here.
During the first year of being enrolled in the school where my kids studies right now, there were kids who bullied other students. They would just punch or scratch someone's face or even throw stones to other students especially those who just studied here. Though the teachers had reprimanded those students because of their bad behaviour still they didn't stop. Though I also approached the parents of those students who bullied my eldest when he was still in grade 2 but nothing had changed because the parents would just never mind what I had told them or they even sometimes said that maybe my son started it that's why he was punched or other physical contacts from their child.
(I knew my son's behaviour. He would not make a fight with someone instead if someone would quarrel with him, he would just cry.)
In this case, I just told my son to stay away from those kids as much as possible because even if we will make a complaint about those students, nothing changed. Those students would still continue because they knew that there parents would still back them up even if they did something wrong.
So when they announced this year's face to face class, it make me worry because what if things will still be the same even if I will send and fetch them to and from school. As we all know, we can't monitor what those students will do inside the school premises where we parents couldn't monitor. As what Xander said, those other students are not even afraid of the teachers.
In the first week, I heard that there were few students who tried to bully my three sons but those only happened on the first week. Second week and up to the moment, I am happy that every time they went home, they always had happy stories about their newly found friends.
This morning I sent them to school, and I also bought them snacks. As I was putting the snacks on their bags, three other students called my eldest son. I don't know who those students are but when my kids saw them, they were smiling widely. I only asked them who those students are when they went home after their morning class. They told me that those are the classmates of my eldest son who are always there with them when they are in school. Play when they have free time, shared their snacks to each other and defend themselves if there are other students who will try to bully them.
With Adam, he found some friends or classmates who speaks Bisaya or Tagalog like him so they get along well with each other. Every after class, Adam would speak about what he and his friends had done in school. He also shared that his friends would share food or snacks with him.
For Xandra and Xander, they both have their circle if friends. Xandra had found a girl bestie who she can talk to even if she can't fluently speaks Maranao and for Xander, he also had two close friends as of the moment. But despite having close friends, he never forget to monitor his siblings especially his younger brother. Whenever they didn't have class, he would brought Xandra with him and went to where Adam's classroom is. He would check if Adam is writing and listening to his teacher. What I like in Xander's personality is his sense of responsibility. He maybe strict sometimes to his siblings especially when his things are messed up but whenever they are in school or other places, he wouldn't forget about his siblings. He is really a mature one and I'm proud of him.
I am relieved to know that my kids are now gaining more friends whom they can miggle with and make their school life more enjoyable and memorable. But even though things get better today, I will still monitor there daily happenings in school.
Same worries din, Ate. Lalo na kay bro kasi may series of experiences s'ya sa bullying since Grade 7 to Grade 9, that's why pahinto-hinto din s'ya kasi di nya kinakaya 'yung effects ng bullying towards his. Bumaba talaga self-esteem n'ya which is nahirapan s'ya na i-control & to overcome. He's turning 19 na pero I'm still worried at grabe talaga nangyari sa kaniya before. And dahil din I'm no longer a student of that school kaya di ko sya mababantayan and maipagtatanggol~ but so far, okay naman. Wala s'yang nakukwento na bad experiences nya.