Why Healthy Communication is Must in a Relationship
For the past few months, my boyfriend and I had a toxic relationship. There were long lists of communication gaps leading to a series of incidents of misunderstandings. I have always believed myself to be an open and optimistic person, but I was wrong. Remember! anything can happen in a relationship. One should be ready to face all unexpected situations. I can't say I experienced all, however, I got the taste of being in a relation. And the only key I found to sustain this, is healthy communication.
When we talk about healthy communication, let me provide its definition of my understanding; A communication irrespective of the distance between two persons or the amount of time spent while communicating, if they are convincing, I call this as healthy communication.
We don't need late-night chats or video calls. Neither we need to be together (physically) to have a good relationship. If you are having hectic days with a packed schedule, just text them that you won't be available for a few days. Inform them that you will meet them during night time. Explain your situation, I am sure that most of your partner will understand you and accept it, but make sure you talk to them by evening or during bedtimes. ( if you have promised earlier).
Most importantly, never wait for her or him to text you first. This is a bad habit for any relationships. If they chat only when you initiate any chats and this happens for multiple times, enquire them about it. Maybe they have other reasons. Enquiring them will only help you to give you a better understanding of the other person. Otherwise, if both of you waits for each other to initiate conversation, it will only create more gaps. This is one of the signs of poor relationship which may not last longer than expected.
If such ignorance and clash of egos prolong, the promises of being "Together Forever" will be just mere words. The only way to fulfil both of your promises is by communicating and understanding each other's shortcomings.
When we say healthy communication, it is not about the quantity. Quality communication solves numerous problems such as clearing confusions/doubts, developing a better understanding and accepting each other's flaws.
As I mentioned in the beginning, my relation wasn't going well. I felt ignored, jilted, or sometimes triggering thoughts like maybe she lost interest, maybe she found someone better, and other negative thoughts lingered.
Still then, I didn't give up on our relationship. I tried my best to let him confess and finally, he did. I realized I was not convinced in the first place. I came to know that he hardly gets time to spend with me as he is busy with his works. His hectic days force to create a larger gap in our daily conversation. I was finally convinced! I wish the same for all those people struggling hard to understand their relationships. For a better understanding, just Communicate and work towards improving your relationship. Take this challenge as an opportunity!
Happy New Year To All My Friends Especially @Omar And Have A Blessed Day!!
Thank you so much @Omar for encouraging me. And thank you so much for your sponsor. Blessed to have a great member here. Take care! 😊
A Boy
There once lived a boy, who had everything in life. A good house, a flattening car, a trophy wife. But everything was achieved by shortcuts taken in life, taking off what belonged to others. The short cuts always seem to work, but whenever he failed, he would always find someone to blame.
One time, at work a presentation was due in just 1 hour. He had forgotten to draft it. Thought of a plan to blame it on a colleague. Due to this, the colleague had lost his job.
In another incident, the boy had made an illegal turn while driving a car, making another car collide into a pole, in which a life was lost. The boy did not feel bad, even for a single minute, he always thought he was in right. Many events occurred like this.
Years started to pass by, the boy's life started to go downhill. He lost his job, his wife left him and his house was revoked because of late payments. He had to survive on nothing but a piece of bread, picking up from the trash. One day he saw a colleague from work.
The colleague was surprised to see the situation of the boy. The boy begged the man to help him, but the man refused and kept walking his way The boy started to cry and thought "if only I kind and taken only what was mine, maybe I would be in a better situation"
PS: I don't know why @TheRandomRewarder is not visited my post. It's been a month he didn't give me a response. Even my articles are original. I'm much worried and still hope that he will visit my post. I even did email to read cash and messaged on Twitter but didn't get any response. Hey, @Omar can you plz help me or resolve my issue? Someone told me about you. Looking forward to the response of your side. Much humbled.
Please Use Social Media Honestly
Hello everyone, I'm seeing that like Coronavirus, PPSC Virus is on the rise for the last some months.
Everyone is just copying and pasting posts regarding the character assassination of PPSC higher authority. We don't have any solid proofs, we are just believing in rumours. Even I know some of my friends who always say that
"Parne ka koi faida nahi hai. Papers to sale hote hain. Muje koi authentic person mil jae. Mai us say paper purchase kar loon ga/gi."
I've been hearing all this for so many months, but they are unable to find any paper saler. They're jobless and they're just wasting their precious time.
Further, we're seeing that there is political turmoil and Govt vs opposition chaos. This wave of PPSCVirus can also be a part of that conflict. It is quite possible that this social media war might be started by the social media wing of any political party to pressurized/derailed the Government.
If I talk about myself, I'm working as Assistant (BPS16) and I've passed the lecturer test, done with the interview and waiting for the final result. Neither I nor any of other fellows purchased/found any paper in advance. We were selected on merit.
Remember: Accusing someone without having ample proofs comes under the term of false accusations "Bohtaan" and you should be aware of the punishment of false accusations "Bohtaan" in Islam.
Please, use social media to enhance the quality of things rather increasing your sins.
Hey everyone. I want to talk read cash support team. I messaged on Twitter and also sent an email but didn't get any response from their side. It's been 3 weeks but didn't get any response. How can I get to them? It's urgent.
I Wish To Treasure You
Is it the mirror
Or is it you
Every time I touch my heart
I feel you
Your tentacles growing inside me
Enveloping my being
You reflect
In my dreams
I embrace you in my succour
And make you
My destiny
The way you tease
The way you caress my essence
I feel
I am somewhere
In between reality and fantasy
I wear your shades
I experiment with your artistry
I so wish to come closer
And kiss you
On the forehead
I smile to myself
When I think about you
Wish I could prove
I have waited for you
All my life
And now that I have found you
I wish to treasure you
As my love
For the rest of my life.
I Just Fell In love
I just fell in love
And he said
Who are you?
I just started living
He said
Why don't you die?
I just had a dream
And he said
Look at you?
I just said for a while
You're my world
He replied
You're just a word to me
I just said
You're my rainbow
He replied
You're just passing clouds to me
I just said
You're my love
He replied
You're not even in my illusion
I just said you're?????
He replied
I don't want to hear you
...............I just fell in love................
I'm Not The Princess
I'm no King,
neither Queen
nor prince
nor Princess
also not buck
not damsel.
' have No Cottage
no, She, also no he
No Shelter To live in
No foods, nor gluts.
But thee, who reads
have Character,
but the author
Has no Subject
But has A book
Full of definitions...
I Realise
You are the neighbourhood of my poetry.
and the world, my all intension make your house's boundary... you know.
After touching you I have been drawing the greenery mangroves around the costal.
These drawing change their colour and walk silently towards the words to be poetry.
when I remain to see... you open your windows every time after thinking here is the untimed moonlight scattering their beauty.
but some nights are pretended by the mannered club-lights blink as pleasures.
Then in that unseen boundaries where the blocked waves come touching of your chest in drawing
it also remains unseen... I realise.
because the swallowed relationship is now has gone so far...so far
where kept the only vacuum
between the distance from blooming moon and me.
I realise.
Despite taking that time
which are recognised as nestled bird's wings are coming out to fly from their birth,
I ask why my tears are so weighty as like their first flying?
Why my tears fly downwards only?
I don't know.
Taking this hidden wealth why I make the reality
as domestic abilities.
But I see an unruptured distance is lying down in front of you and me.
It makes a realisation which is similar to the eclipse.
Where the ancient shadow falls on the ancient circle is attracted as the separation ceremony...
which we are celebrating every time
in this malformed world.
The Night
On the bank of blue sea
standing alone in a plateau
I feel the breeze of heaven
Oh night, you come from the First cause
You come, as I imagine.
I think of my past
The golden past, I have lost
Oh night, you come from the First Cause
You come, as the dream of my lost childhood.
I hear the crying of the blue sea
I feel the grasses and trees are singing
I see the moon is shining
Oh night, you come from the First Cause
You vision me to see the aurora on the mountain.
I Am Looking For You
Like
a blank paper,
nothing
written on me.
imagine
Some words
with the reflection
of my feelings
yes! you know
very well
the Emptiness
of my heart
Is waiting for you
Where are you?
On a blank paper
I am looking for you...
Light Is Falling Down
Cold breezes hit the naked face
Causes to freeze the blood in veins
Warm breaths come out in sighs
But not enough for being alive
Smoke arises from the ashes
Scent from the ashes disperse all the way
Bare sky shines just like the pearls
And illuminates the roads, hidden in gloom
Someone's trying to get over these ways
Walking fearly along with trembling legs
But these breezes, smoke and scents
Shredding someone in bits and pieces
Light is falling down from glowing stars
To show the track for someone to pass
Hopes are high for getting survived
But traces are deep,too tough to fade
Yearning
Wish I had not weaned to behold
Wish I had powers to mould
Or bold enough to behold
In history would I intervene
And help it rewrite the scene
From books would I take away ink
And ink them again to better the scene
I would side with Priam
And have him rule with love
I would drive away from the beast
And perch the dove
I would take away powers from Achilles
Lend strength to Hector he wouldn't bow
I would return Princess to Achilles
To make no row
I would have Faustus ask for more
Would have Mephistopheles all that ignore
I would have Arthur take back Hester
Have Hester take off that did glister
I would have encouraged Cathy Heathcliff love
And taken it to new heights above
For Romeo and Juliet, I would arrange a tryst
And conceal the affair with the shroud of mist
I would play the flute to please their ears
But what is all this worth?
If I don't get love from my dears
Who Is Responsible
Though the heart is mine
But who is ready to hurt?
Though the pain is mine
But who is ready to heal?
Though the suffering is mine
But who is ready to seek?
Though the struggle is mine
But who is ready to aid?
Though the ignorance is mine
But who is ready to consult?
Though the deeds are mine
But who is ready to lead?
Though the darkness is mine
But who is ready to illumine?
Though the despair is mine
But who is ready to give hope?
Though the sin is mine
But who is ready to show virtues?
Though the tears are mine
But who is ready to sweep?
Why me?
I Saw A Star
As The Sky shimmer
Above the glinting sky
I saw A star, the
Mighty one
Who sparks amid,
valley and hills Beyond.
I sat under the tree
with my book showing
Histories
until the owl appear's
and Start whimpering
and Flew without
my self knowing.
As I go out and start walking
I write, I read, I who created
Its own masterpiece.
Who Am I
Setting in front of the heater, in Cold weather, reading my heart and my thoughts. Just feeling relax comparing myself with the world and happenings. Do I exist or the world exists for me. Who am I?
A material physical body or a Soul which consists the abstract features: thinking, ideas, happiness, stress, love and emotions. I am just a Soul And that will soon leave this world.
This worlds time is also an abstract feature it has no physical body like and it is undefined we can just pas through it. Yesterday I was a kid now I am a 23 years old girl. Maybe the time is telling me I have age in this world a limit to living here.
Hey All!! Happy cool and cold days. Finally the December has started. Wear sweaters and take care yourself. This month is most amazing and cooling. Let's enjot the December together. Hope you too like winters.
Happy December You All
Hey Girls Listen
Get married now. Why aren't you getting married?
All girls above 25 have heard these sick sentences at least once in their lives but here I want to tell you people, that it’s fine not to ask about something negative, it’s okay to ignore the obvious things because your concern and questions can make a situation terrible.
We ask terrible things that are none of our business because in a way we are satisfying ourselves that we are better than them. We are doing better but I think if u r better then why all this fuss. Why you need to assure yourself again and again by putting others down.
To all my beautiful ladies, Everyone gets married. It is to be what is written in destiny. So when next time someone asks you that WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED, instead of feeling miserable just think about this one thing that which insecurity the other person is trying to hide while letting you down.
It's ok to feel sad
We need to be able to feel the emotions, but figure out how to not let ourselves fall so deep in that pit where we can’t get out.
It’s unhealthy not to let yourself feel what you need to feel, it just takes a lot to realize that, and then to practice feeling them while still trying to live life and do what we need to to survive and get through each day.
No matter how much you shape your life, depression doesn't fade away, it's not mutually exclusive. Do things and shape whatever you want., but don't claim that sadness doesn't stick, because it does.
I tell my sister it’s okay to feel sad, angry, disappointed, whatever it is - just let us help you figure out how to function and survive through it while you’re feeling it, and don’t treat people like shit while you’re feeling that way, because you’re still in charge of how you act, react, treat others, even when you’re struggling.
Allow yourself being sad but life must go on.
What Uptrennd University Means To Me
Hello All!!! Many of you know that a few months ago I became the part of Uptrennd University. And I was the part of Delta Session.
The journey went on and we continued to learn new things. Still, we are going to do some new. Because I love creativity and new things.
This time our Chancellor gave us a chance to create videos and edit them on Viva Video. Our Chancellor guided us every step of editing the video. She guided us from a very easy method.
So I made a video in which I told about "What Uptrennd University Means To Me".
So do you want to know what Uptrennd University means to me? Ok, let me share you the video that I created on this topic.
Click this video.👇 Watch it and tell me how did you feel?
https://youtu.be/IFYn661VaeI
Hello All Gorgeous People. Hope you are all good and having a great Sunday. It's a very relaxing day for me. I pray May God bless you all and give a very happy life. Kindly take care of yourself. Coronavirus is increasing again. Follow SOPs and take care of your elders. May God keep safe everyone and finish this virus as soon as possible. And May God gives a healthy and long life who are suffering from this virus.
Love you all and enjoy the Sunday.
You Just Start
I am not a pessimist person but It's easier said than done when life keeps bouncing you down and you find yourself running in circles there's nothing left to breakthrough.
The only direction to get things worked is to JUST START. Motivation follows, the drive of finishing what you've started.
Also, lets us not look for joy. Or even achieve happiness in life. May we all find the importance of WHOLENESS. WHOLENESS IS BEYOND OPTIMISM. It means we are accepting that life is up and down. And when life gets down, we knew there is still a good day to look up to.
This doesn’t mean that a preplanned life is a perfect life—but it is a purposeful life. It’s finding the strength to let go of things that no longer help you and to maintain things that make you feel **active.**
My Photography Skills
My tour to Lahore. The weather was so stunning and romantic. And I love to capture photos of beautiful things. So I captured. I love birds. I captured birds pics and Lahore beautiful roads.
Here is my photography.
Beautiful View
Lahore Beautiful Clouds
One more pic. 😍
Hope you people liked my photography. Take care. Love ya all. ❤️❤️
I Pray
Some years ago I was sad and suicidal and I swore things would never get better. Before I killed myself, though, I decided to give therapy a try (nothing to lose). The therapist told me it would take time.
Healing is a process and as long as "2 years" sounds, time flew by. I am in disbelief, some days when I sit alone and realize how far I have come. When I feel at peace with myself and others when I am not sad or angry or bothered by anything at all. Therapy was the best choice I have ever made.
I know it's the most difficult task - to be comfortable with your healing parts. It's the most important and difficult task not to self sabotage your healing!
I pray may God help and heal every person every living being on earth who are facing any bad situation. May God keep safe you from all sorrows.
Another Graduation Party
Yoooo I'm so excited because here is another party another graduation. Yes you heard true. I'm going to graduate again in UU. I'm so happy and thankful to my all tutors, students, fellows and Chancellor.
This time we are going to do Pirate Graduation Party that is going to held on 30th Nov, 7 AM PST. We are going for a pirate hunt yayyy.
I'm so excited OMG I can't share my expressions right now.
Uptrennd University is the best University where you can improve your skills and show your talent. It's a very interesting place. It's a place where you meet very humble, loving and sophisticated people. It's a place where you never get bored. I would recommend to you all that you too plz join Uptrennd University.
Ayyy Captain I'm ready and accept your invitation.
Hey, guys, I would love to see you all here in discord on 30th Nov, 7 AM Pst.
Love You All
Yes I Am Brave
Being brave is one of the greatest moralities in my eyes. It might not come naturally. It is made stronger with practice, like a muscle. One little step out of your comfort zone, one little word of what scares the shit out of you - and next time you'll find yourself being able to say out three words instead of one.
You will learn to stand up for yourself and consequently, you will learn to stand up for others. You will not - we will not - throw another under the bus because of our cowardice. We will be scared, we will be terrified of opening our hearts, but one step at a time, we will learn to bare it in the midst of our fear. And that, my friend, is true courage. Insane courage.
I thought I was brave. I did things many people would have never done. Then I experienced loss, a loss I feared for my whole life. This great loss that led to great grief. This great grief unravelled me. Then I kept moving forward within this grief and found out my truth. I am brave.
Happiness And Sadness
I've always believed that happiness is a myth, that it is subjective, that you can create happiness, that it's an illusion. You can find or create little reasons for happiness.
The sadness I believe is real, Is something you can't create a reason for or you can't believe on your own that you're sad. I don't know about you all but I often create reasons for my happiness.
We all pursue happiness, fulfilment, contentedness, wholesomeness, whatever you want to call it. No-one consciously pursues sadness, misery, disappointment, although those things are part of life and we have to face them. But we strive to overcome those emotions because ultimately we want to be happy and live life positively. But remember that Happiness and Sadness are part of life.
People nowadays don’t want to feel sadness or frustration or pains anymore (they deny those feelings even all moods is a state of mind) But it’s a part of life. We should celebrate both sides, things come that make us happy and things bring us sadness.
All we have to do (learn to do) is enjoying every moment and believing that every road has its beauty (darkness and light-sadness and joys) Always remember to have fun.
Human Being
A life devoid of destruction is a life devoid of moving forward to experiment with new ideas and ways for the betterment of human life. The quest for unfolding the realities of nature has always been accompanied by punishment for the crime of deviance from fixed beliefs.
In above all scenarios, the human being improved their intellects and directed humanity from generation to generation towards the light of truth. This flexibility of human nature has always been their inborn quality and the gift from God to decide their fate.
If we live in a state of denial to change, then over fate will be governed by uncertainties and the clouds of threats will be the looming over our heads. These threats will affect the growth of human intellect and deprive them of all their rights conferred on them by nature.
All the dignity and advancement conferred on human beings are the fruits of Revolutions and Deviances from the fixed beliefs to correct their course towards enlightenment. All these fixed beliefs were once considered as the backbone of societies but now are of no value rejecting them paved from development.
If You Are Having A Hard Time
Sometimes you can't just clock out, though. If you're having a hard time or sad and feel like you can't take a break because it will put you in financial duress, you have to focus on the moments where you'll be ok. If you're pushing yourself to your limits, working extra shifts, studying in your free time and it's wearing you down, remember you are working towards better days. For those who can't take breaks please use the quiet moments to recharge and power through. Everyone always says it gets easier, but sometimes you get stronger too.
You will rise above the ashes. You will find a way to become whole again. FEEL your emotions. Process them in the healthiest ways. You're growing and evolving. Allow the pain and sadness make you grow into someone so immensely beautiful and wise.
You are allowed to interpret things as you would, you don’t have to chain yourself to the idea of sadness, anger, confusion, complacency, happiness. You are a human with a full range of emotions.
I kept telling myself, it’s okay, hold on. Those dark days will end.
Romantic Relationship
Friendships are better than romantic relationships. In my opinion, romantic relationships ought to have a foundation of friendship.
Friendships are soulmates in a different way that has no requirements or obligations neither commitment. They just grow deeper and stronger as time goes.
Friendship is as good as any other relationship. We just need to believe ourselves and stop labializing or putting conditions in front of the relationship.
Friendships are much more good than relationships. Consider yourself lucky if you have a single genuine friend. And in my opinion, those relationships last longer where friendship is involved too.
@Aishashah
