For Friendship or...?
I had opened the tab to write and was staring at it for about 10 minutes, thoughts about what to write and how to write it kept flowing in and out of my mind, but, none could stay long enough to take form. I had spent most of the afternoon staring at the computer screen, and that often have its effect on my eyes. Well, I had to help my cousin register for admission into a university. Found it weird that the school needed so many information, some of which I would term irrelevant. I guess different schools have their own policies, Because I remember when I registered for mine, they didn't need so much information and documents too.
Today, I caught myself thinking about my childhood when I saw one of the neighbour's children refuse from from his mother. I couldn't help but laugh, because i remembered a time I used to be that way too. I remember whenever I was angry, I would go on a hunger strike just to prove a point to my parents. In retrospect, I don't think the hunger strikes were necessary, because I can't say it had the effect I had wanted on my parents. They would act as though I had not embarked on a strike, and even give out my food to my siblings sometimes.
Time is a strange thing, or do I say that change is. I have recently lost the willingness or ability to argue or drag anything. Believe me, there was a time I care enough to make my point known, and I would go to any lengths I could do that that. I was having a conversation with a friend recently, and during the course of our conversation, she made an attempt to lure me into a debate severally, which I shrugged of by saying "Oh, alright" every time she did. The third time I did so compelled her to ask: "Are you alright?". I paused for a moment to think about why she would ask the question before answering "I am alright".
A person's willingness to indulge you or just let it be depends on a lot of factors. Oftentimes, it is one's mood that determines whether or not they are in the mood for your jibby-jabber. But the question I'd ask is: how far are you willing to go to prove a point? Let me share a story from my secondary school days;
When I was in my SS3 (The last class in secondary school) some of the prefects in the school were my classmates. I remember this event because it happened between the two people who sat in front of me. One of them was a a prefect, while the other wasn't. Apparently, the conversation between them had been whether the one who was a prefect would punish him if he ever came late. This was quite funny when I heard him say it, and couldn't hold my laughter.
Well, the prefect didn't find it funny, and took offence. He blatantly told his seatmate he won't be spared if he came late, and that like every other student of the school, he wasn't exempted from the school rules and regulations. Barely a week after that, something had ensued between the two of them, and that is actually the main story I want to tell. For the sake of easy reference, let's call the prefect Brian and his seatmate who isn't a prefect Zion.
Barely a week after that conversation between Brian and Zion, Zion was late to school this particular day, and Brian happened to be the one who was on duty at the gate, punishing latecomers. From the story I heard of the event that transpired that morning, as Zion was walking into the school, Brian had asked him to stop and join the group of student who had been asked to stay back to serve their punishment for being late. Zion refused to wait behind and walked past Brian with a smile on his face, as if to say "I told you so". Well, he was a senior student, and not only was he Brian's classmate, he was also his seatmate and friend.
To Zion, he was above any rules Brian was out enforcing, especially something as 'ordinary' as punishment for late coming. Brian in the end let it go because he didn't want to escalate the matter by bringing it to the attention of the school management. I asked him later why he didn't, and he said it was because Zion was his friend, and he wouldn't want him punished because of him. Surely, there are many ways to look at this situation, all things considered. So, I'd like to ask my readers, if you were Brian, will you take up the matter or just let it go like he did?
I would really like to hear your view on this.
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